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Should my ex-wife contribute to the cost of schools and associated school expences i.e: uniforms, shoes & fees
My ex-wife left in Nov 2005. To cut an extremely long story short, I got custody of my eldest son in 2007. I took her back to court again due to my other two children's wishes this year and was awarded joint custody, 50% each, week on week off.
Due to the fact that when my ex left, she went interstate with the children and now has to return to the original state with the children.
In the time she lived interstate, her mother and father (Very rich people) took it on themselves to pay for the children's schooling. When my eldest son came to live with me, they cut him off completely and now they are doing the same to my younger two as well. This I do not have a problem with as I never wanted anything from then at all nor did I ever ask.
The issue is, now that the children are coming back I would like them to go to a good school, but I am only bringing in my own income and in the entire time we were seperated I paid child support the entire time, never missed a payment nor will I, almost $1000.00 per month for 18 months.
My ex tells me that since she is moving back, her parents won't support her in anyway, (What a shame). I have told her that this is not my concern and that she needs to help towards the cost for the children's schooling, but she says straight out that she cannot as she has no money and no job and won't be able to.
What do I do?
Due to the fact that when my ex left, she went interstate with the children and now has to return to the original state with the children.
In the time she lived interstate, her mother and father (Very rich people) took it on themselves to pay for the children's schooling. When my eldest son came to live with me, they cut him off completely and now they are doing the same to my younger two as well. This I do not have a problem with as I never wanted anything from then at all nor did I ever ask.
The issue is, now that the children are coming back I would like them to go to a good school, but I am only bringing in my own income and in the entire time we were seperated I paid child support the entire time, never missed a payment nor will I, almost $1000.00 per month for 18 months.
My ex tells me that since she is moving back, her parents won't support her in anyway, (What a shame). I have told her that this is not my concern and that she needs to help towards the cost for the children's schooling, but she says straight out that she cannot as she has no money and no job and won't be able to.
What do I do?
best answer by Dobson...
I agree, if your concern was truly your kids then why not allow them to continue having the support they had? Sounds like they were being cared for? You created this, you wanted them with you - instead of her. This happens a lot in divorce - it's a power struggle. It shouldn't be. It should be about the kids best interest. And from the sounds of it - you can't afford to give them the quality of life they had. You took that from them and now you want her to pay for it. Sounds to me like you should have thought about that. She should have to pay for half of what everyone else pays for. Would you have been able to pay for half of the schooling they were getting when her parents were paying for it? Probably not. Grow up and start putting your kids first instead of your hatred of their mother.
I agree, if your concern was truly your kids then why not allow them to continue having the support they had? Sounds like they were being cared for? You created this, you wanted them with you - instead of her. This happens a lot in divorce - it's a power struggle. It shouldn't be. It should be about the kids best interest. And from the sounds of it - you can't afford to give them the quality of life they had. You took that from them and now you want her to pay for it. Sounds to me like you should have thought about that. She should have to pay for half of what everyone else pays for. Would you have been able to pay for half of the schooling they were getting when her parents were paying for it? Probably not. Grow up and start putting your kids first instead of your hatred of their mother.
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