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How can i tell when someone looses interest in you!?
ok so im so in love with my boyfriend and we've been dating for about three years. we started out as friends and we talked every single day. when we started dating everything was great and really still is. we can talk about almost everything and i love that about him.but in the winter he is very active with his skiing career and really doesnt have as much time for me. i usually go wtih him when i can, but when i dont go with him i usually go without talking to him for up to a week. i hate it so much. i dont like to be needy or annoying so usually i wil just send a cute text message or an im telling him that i miss him and love him. just the other day though i was talking on the phone with him and he started talking about this girl his friend and how much he likes her. i really dont know what to do about. he tells me that he loves me and me only but i do have doubts sumtimes. this is the same girl that when we were just friends he had been talking to which was awhile ago. i asked him in a nice way if he wanted to just be friend again( which i really dont want) and he simply responded that we would talk about that later. and 2 weeks later have yet too! now everytime that i want to talk on the phone with him hes too tired and just wants to go to sleep or talk online. i really dont know if hes getting sick of me? or am i just over reacting to the situation? help me?
best answer by lcahern...
i'd say just let it play out...if he goes after this other girl it will be obvious and you can walk away from him knowing you did the right thing. wait for him to come home before being upset. use this time while he's gone to catch up with your own life and your own friends and family. i wish my boyfriend went on vacations!
when you're paranoid about him being with this other girl it probably makes you more needy and you feel like you need to talk to him all the time (partly to try and distract him from this other girl, or to try to get hints as to if he's into this other girl). also you're insecurity could come off in your tone when you talk to him, and that could bother him and make him want to talk to you less. i guess its okay to be needy, you can't help that, but you don't want him to know you're needy! if you get too needy you might actually drive him towards the other girl. try to be a bit more independent so you don't think about him as much, and don't contact him as much so he'll start to miss you. if he doesn't start to miss you he's probably not worth you being upset about, but skiing really does make someone really tired, so if he says he's tired, he probably is and you shouldn't bother him too much. i know it sounds terrible thinking that he could be "bothered" by you since you're his girlfriend and he's supposed to like talking to you, but if he's tired and you try to talk to him he's just going to feel irritated, and you don't want him associating you with being irritated. you're supposed to be the girl he calls up when he's feeling good and misses you.
so let it play out. don't be paranoid, or needy, or bothered, or thinking about him all the time. go be your independent self! wait until he's back and you can talk to him in person before you start asking him heavy questions like "if he wanna be just friends again."
i'd say just let it play out...if he goes after this other girl it will be obvious and you can walk away from him knowing you did the right thing. wait for him to come home before being upset. use this time while he's gone to catch up with your own life and your own friends and family. i wish my boyfriend went on vacations!
when you're paranoid about him being with this other girl it probably makes you more needy and you feel like you need to talk to him all the time (partly to try and distract him from this other girl, or to try to get hints as to if he's into this other girl). also you're insecurity could come off in your tone when you talk to him, and that could bother him and make him want to talk to you less. i guess its okay to be needy, you can't help that, but you don't want him to know you're needy! if you get too needy you might actually drive him towards the other girl. try to be a bit more independent so you don't think about him as much, and don't contact him as much so he'll start to miss you. if he doesn't start to miss you he's probably not worth you being upset about, but skiing really does make someone really tired, so if he says he's tired, he probably is and you shouldn't bother him too much. i know it sounds terrible thinking that he could be "bothered" by you since you're his girlfriend and he's supposed to like talking to you, but if he's tired and you try to talk to him he's just going to feel irritated, and you don't want him associating you with being irritated. you're supposed to be the girl he calls up when he's feeling good and misses you.
so let it play out. don't be paranoid, or needy, or bothered, or thinking about him all the time. go be your independent self! wait until he's back and you can talk to him in person before you start asking him heavy questions like "if he wanna be just friends again."
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