A Double Life

"Married for 15 months. Husband returns once a monthto New Jersey from the Northwest to visit his ex wife and son and daughter. I totally support him, finanacilly as he has an huge IRS bill coming up, because he gave his ex all his 401K monies, plus the family home He has a great job but all of his income goes to helping his ex and family. This winter he is building a suite for his ex. so she will stay out of his daughters hair. He still carries the mortgage (they are all bankrupt) on his home in NJ. His ex wife and daughter and son in law live in the house. His daughter has her Masters in Ed. as does his son in law. They are both 40 and have 3 children, 1, 5, 8.

He wants to get them back on their feet. His ex is a nurse. Both my husband his ex and myself are 61. I think they are using him. He rationalizes that I have the money so ...whats the problem We don't do much because he works and then travels home.

Am I being selfish, to want a fulltime husband ??? This has evolved over the last year. Every month is a new story and pockets to fill.


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