What The Hell Is The Guy Code?
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Side 1 says...
So I like this boy and we turned into really good friends online. I mean we've known each other for a long time through my ex-boyfriend because they are friends. We started connecting again on facebook and really hit it off. We talk everyday and on the phone every night.
My problem is that he won't make the jump to see me! He says it's a guy thing and every though we are perfect for each other, he'd rather not risk his friendship with my ex-boyfriend than take a chance on us!. I mean we really really really connect on a level that's like true soulmates. My ex and I have not dated for 5 years and we all live in different parts of the country now.
He brings up this guy code and that I'm on this short list of girls he can never mess with. I don't understand. It's been forever since I've been with my ex and my ex has moved on and has a girlfriend. I don't think he would care if his friend dated me. I am so frustrated about this because I really want to give us a shot.
Am I wrong or is he just scared?
My problem is that he won't make the jump to see me! He says it's a guy thing and every though we are perfect for each other, he'd rather not risk his friendship with my ex-boyfriend than take a chance on us!. I mean we really really really connect on a level that's like true soulmates. My ex and I have not dated for 5 years and we all live in different parts of the country now.
He brings up this guy code and that I'm on this short list of girls he can never mess with. I don't understand. It's been forever since I've been with my ex and my ex has moved on and has a girlfriend. I don't think he would care if his friend dated me. I am so frustrated about this because I really want to give us a shot.
Am I wrong or is he just scared?
Added by baffled (female)
Side 2 says...
I am not gonna lie. I really like this girl a lot. The problem is the friend (her ex) and I have been life-long friends and the thought of us getting together hurting him is not something I want. I want this girl but I am unsure if it's worth the risk of one of my best friends. I never expected or even attempted to bring this relationship with her to the level it's escalated to, but the thing is she and I are pretty prefect for each other.
Am I scared? Of course. Do I want to hurt or piss off my friend? Absolutely not. Should I take the chance cos it may never come like this again? I have no frickin' idea!
Maybe I shouldn't have started talking to her on facebook but she was only really asking advice on other guys. It was completely innocent. But it kept on getting more and more until it became a daily thing. Now we talk all the time. The bad (and good) thing about it is I like it way too much to be healthy.
BUT (and here's the but), I cannot forget about the friend and even the thought of me bringing it up to him makes my stomach turn. So far it's great but starting something further there is always risk. What if it wouldn't work out between us? Then, not only will I lose her, I will probably have lost a great friend. But if it does, and he sees that we are happy, maybe he could be happy for us. I just don't know. I just think I should stick to the guy code and play it safe but I'm still torn up to hell and back at missing out...
Am I scared? Of course. Do I want to hurt or piss off my friend? Absolutely not. Should I take the chance cos it may never come like this again? I have no frickin' idea!
Maybe I shouldn't have started talking to her on facebook but she was only really asking advice on other guys. It was completely innocent. But it kept on getting more and more until it became a daily thing. Now we talk all the time. The bad (and good) thing about it is I like it way too much to be healthy.
BUT (and here's the but), I cannot forget about the friend and even the thought of me bringing it up to him makes my stomach turn. So far it's great but starting something further there is always risk. What if it wouldn't work out between us? Then, not only will I lose her, I will probably have lost a great friend. But if it does, and he sees that we are happy, maybe he could be happy for us. I just don't know. I just think I should stick to the guy code and play it safe but I'm still torn up to hell and back at missing out...
Added by shakyground (male)
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