What I have a problem with is that our 16 year old was only allowed to take our 5 year old to wrestling practice. After which our 16 year old decided, and did not let us know, that he was going to attend the church youth group. My feeling is that he should have asked us permission and not taken it upon himself to decide if it was ok to take our 5 year old on to this next activity. Furthermore, I believe it's important for us to know exactly where our children are. So even if he didn't have our 5 year old, he still should have let us know where he was planning to go.