"Scum Bag Friend"

"Mel is a close friend of mine. She is the type of person who never wants to come off impolite, she is very upset if she feels she's made anyone uncomfortable or unhappy. Mel is also very attractive so guys take advantage of her politeness. She may not be interested in a guy but have drinks with him just so his feelings won't be hurt. She's also very trusting and a little naive and has recently been looking to make more friends. This perfect storm led her to start hanging out with a guy who approached her on the subway. She said he wad a cool guy our age and we should all hang out: him, his girlfriend, Mel and I. In passing she mentioned the guy had several times mentioned the size of his penis to her and half jokingly asked her if shed have a threesome with him and his gf. I thought this was kind of creepy but she assured me he was a nice guy and that he only wanted to be friends. Anyway we all go out together to a bar. After we leave Mel tells me the guy was rubbing up her leg under the table with his gf right there. We decide he wad just drunk but the next time Mel goes out with him and his gf he pulls the same thing. Mel Says she doesn't have enough friends and wants to keep hanging out with this guy. I say he's a creeper and will try to pull somthing.

New Side Updates
"Mel says the "feeling up" incident happend months ago and nothing like that has happens since. That's a bit missleading because they have only hung out once since then, so he tried 2 feel her up 2 out of the three times they went drinking. Now she's thinking of hanging out with him alone because he redeemed humself by not trying to molester her one time.



Mel has updated so I will respond again. Yes we did used to date over a year and a half ago. I don't understand the argument that because we used to date that my concern is somehow not valid. Us dating doesn't change the fact that he tried to feel her up against her will! She has made it very clear to me and him that she only wants to be friends with him yet he puts his hands on her. This is not ok but I'm in a catch 22 possition I'm the only one who knows this is going on so I can sit back and do nothing, in which case she may find herself alone with him and he may get even more grabby, or I can say somthing but when I do I am accused of just being a overbearing ex. If you think I'm jealous how does that affect this guys shadyness?

Please excuse any errors we're both trying to do this on an iPhone...view more"