I know my wife misses me and I know she has always been devoted to me and her kids
She is my second wife and met at work. Both of us were ending our previous marriages when we starting dating.
My wife is attractive, has ADHD, and her weight has always been a challenge for her. She also has three children from her previous marriage which I don't have a problem with. We are going on 7 years of marriage this November. We do enjoy each others company and I do love her but the stress of the kids demands [which she is correct], not being able to refinance a huge house, and the everyday life of marriage has caused me to re-think what do "I" want in life. Within a year , I met somebody else and yes my wife had no clue until the last minute and yes ....she did not do anything to deservce my actions but I did. Married life was becoming boring and I needed a boost. The stress of the kids activities and needs, both of us working many hours to keep the finances up to date, and the routine activities of grocery shopping, laundry, lawn maintenance, etc were not allowing us much time to do join other activities. Yes, we went on trips together and we did make dates just to be husband and wife but I wanted more. My wife keeps waiting for the answer of why? Honestly, I don't know why I did what I did other than "I" want to be happy and "I" don't feel marriage is for me. Although I do love her and care for her deeply and I told the kids I will always take part in a father role to them, going to my apartment is quiet, there are no demands of kids, I don't have to cook for five, and legally I don't have to live in house for a huge family when technically, I don't have children. I know my wife and I have to sit down and have a serious and long talk because she is right.....I have been misleading her all along. She has always loved me, looks to "our" future, requested a bigger engagement ring for our anniverary, etc. But I knew by telling her how I feel....she would be deeply hurt, traumatized as she says, and I didn't want to hurt her. So I guess...I did bail. It was easier for me. I did tell her, should we divorce which we are not.....I have no intentions on re-marrying again. My hope should our marriage dissolve which at this time...I do.....my hope is we still can be friends. As for my new relationship, I think I am in love with her but I am not sure where this relationship will go. I do feel bad for what I did to my wife and love her but I did meet somebody else and I want to be happy.