"He Had A Lapdance..."

"After having been friends with my boyfriend we started dating. I am so in love with him I can't stand to be away from him for a second. I do trust him and I am sure that he is always telling me the truth. He is an honest man.

BUT...

After we dated for two months, he had to go to South Korea on a business trip. Late one evening, the company took him and his colleague out for dinner. This was a business dinner.

After a few minutes around 10 girls came in (my boyfriend was there with around 4-5 other people). Each of the businesspeople had to pick one girl to be their waitress. After another fifteen minutes the girls did lapdances... so the girl my boyfriend picked to be his waitress did a lapdance on him.

My boyfriend agreed to the entire lapdance, but she wasn't allowed to unbutton his pants. His colleague let his waitress unzip his pants.

They all had two lapdances before the evening was over.

When my boyfriend got to the hotel around 2 in the morning or whatever the time was, he MSN:ed me and said something like "hahahahaha, guess what happened, i had a lapdance, it was so freaking bizarre and totally ridiculous, hahahahaha".

I didn't get pissed off then. I did get pissed off when i thought about it. Really pissed off. I considered ending the relationship. But since we are both really in love I decided to give it another chance. THis was around half a year ago and I am really happy with him... BUT... I still cannot really forgive him for the lapdance. I think it's really skanky and really stupid and I never thought that my supercute boyfriend would ever be okay with a lapdance from a prostitute. I just don't know if I will ever be able to forget this and put it past me.

When I confronted him at first, he didn't understand at all why i was pissed off. After a while he started to get the picture.

I made the comment that if I had been there, he would never have had the lapdance because he would then have felt like he was cheating.. but since I wasn't there, it was easy to go along with the lapdances.

When I made that comment, he finally understood that it isn't okay to do stuff just because I am not there to see it... and then he got extremely sad and I think for now, he is more sad than I am about the whole thing.

I feel he was wrong... and I just can't forget...

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"To all you that say that a lapdance isn't a big deal...
Would it be okay for your boyfriend/girlfriend to have a lapdance from a colleague at work? Or is it okay with a lapdance from a random girl/guy in the disco? Is it okay if a friend does it? Where do we draw the line?
Just because it's a professional lapdancer and a different country, does it make it okay? Not in my book... a lapdance is a lapdance, I don't care if it's from a prostitute, professional lapdancer, a colleague or a random girl off the street...
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