Husband Looks At Teen Porn

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"My wife doesn't understand that men are different from women and that our sexual needs are different. Because of medication that I take my libido has decreased considerably. This bothers me greatly.

I live in a house where I am the only male and I feel that I have no privacy whatsoever. Now this last bit of my personal life has been invaded. I feel embarrassed and humiliated.

I'm very sorry that I hurt my wife, I never intended to upset her. I love her very much and I don't want to lose her. I've told her that I would stop looking at pornography, but that doesn't seem to make a difference for her."

His Side

Robert27

"My husband has long had an interest in online pornography. I'm not thrilled with this aspect of our relationship but have accepted that it is a part of the male culture. It does bother me that he is careless about being discreet and periodically I have to clean up the desktop to remove downloaded video clips or history so that our daughters aren't exposed to his 'hobby'.

Several years ago I found that he had been looking at some teen porn sites and I told him that while I could accept his looking at adult porn, the teen stuff crossed a line that I couuldn't accept, particularly because we had daughters. He denied looking at anything teen related and finally told me that if it upset me he just wouldn't look at any porn because it really wasn't that important to him.

Within a few weeks he was back to looking at internet porn.

Recently I discovered that he has been looking at 100's of sites with teen pornography. Some of the girls look very young, 13 or 14 years old at most. Others appear a bit older but try to look teen or preteen with pigtails and other 'youg' hairstyles and poses. The site names imply that the girls are very young.

My reaction has been one of revulsion and shock. All I can think of is that my husband is arroused by girls that are the age of his daughters. I feel violated, betrayed, let down, and disgusted by this side of my husband.

I asked him about these sites, he denies that there is anything wrong or that he was looking at anything other than adults. He claims that I don't understand a man's needs and that most men look at porn. I emphasized that my objection was not to the porn, but the fact that he is so focused on teens. The google searches he did where for 'teen panties', 'young teens' and other similar phrases.

Am I being unreasonable? I just can't get past this issue and the fact that he is turned on by girls that resemble his daughters."