"My Boyfriend Drinks Too Much And Acts Like A Fool."

"My boyfriend drinks way too much, when he gets drunk. He only gets drunk about once a month, but he turns into a completely different person. I'm all for people being able to unwind and have fun but he takes it above and beyond.
The last 2 times he got drunk he admitted he had a problem and promised to stop but he was just lying because it's only a month later and it's like he forgot how much he has hurt me. I cannot stay with him if this continues.
When he was out drinking with his buddies he got so drunk that he ate banana out of a naked strippers vagina.
He ruined my birthday party but being so drunk by 8;00 pm that he was rolling around in the dirt with the dogs with a stick in his mouth and then naked and throwing up. I had to spend my birthday taking care of him and he was being really mean to me and saying hurtful things. Lots of my friends and family were there and I felt relaly embarassed; He promised no more drinking after this but the next weekend he got hammered.

We went out for Halloween with friends the night before our one year anniversary and we said we wouldn't get too drunk, so that we could enjoy our $200 a night hotel we booked for the next day. |He got so drunk he couldn't stop throwing up on Halloween. He was so hungover the next day that he threw up all over himself and his car on the drive to our hotel. He was soo tired and no fun. He ruined out anniversary. He cried and begged me to forgive him and promised to change but now it's only a month later and he wants to get hammered on New Years. He had promised me no more drinking for at least a year because he has a problem and turns into a complete ass but now he wants to drink again.

I say -it's me or the alcohol. Am I being unreasonable?


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"He doesn't really seem to be listening to what I am saying. I'm upset he made promises and won't keep them. I'm not saying he shouldn't go out on New Years but why does he have to get drunk. He seems to think he cannot have fun without drinking.

I do not like the person he is when he drinks and I do not trust or feel safe around that guy.I just wish he could keep the no drinking promise for at least 6 months. He EVEN admits he has a problem. He just makes me feel really unimportant when he chooses drinking over me.


I also would like to spend new year's with my boyfriend and that won't be very fun for me if he gets drunk b/c he won't be very nice to me. I also don't know if I would trust him to get drunk like that with me not there. I just wish he could stop at 3 beers.


I am going to support my boyfriend during his therapy and AA. I love him. There is more to the stripper thing and 5/5 of my girlfriends didn't think I should break up with him for that even though I almost did.
Anyways he decided not to drink on NYE and has made big improvement already....view more"