"Friend Who Doesn't Feel The Benefits Of FWB"

"I started messing around with a mutual friend about 8 years ago. I never initiated anything with him, he just always used to do things like crawl through my window at night and sneak into my room (we were in college) without my roommate knowing or anything. Once, when he got a new car, he picked me up and we promptly had relations. We did this "messing around" for about a year... as long as I lived in that house. But it really wasn't ever me who initiated it. And, he was married.

He has since gotten a divorce. I was totally out of his picture and he out of mine until about 7 months ago. Then, both single, we started to be friends with benefits again.

After 7 months, many times shared together, I am just supposed to accept that we are "consenting adults." He has no aim of ever making me a girlfriend, and insists that he doesn't know what he is looking for. But he want the benefits to continue. He wants to be my friend for 10 hours per day, talk on the phone for 1, and then have benefits for a few minutes or hours a day.

Me, I decided that I don't want anything anymore. He acts like he wants me, but really doesn't. I think I should end the relationship all together. He thinks we need a cooling off period.

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"Just FYI - I KNOW it was never a relationship. I am saying that after being single for 7-8 years, meeting up with a guy that I had a past with, and being 7 months into it, there is no point to continue something that will turn out FOR SURE, to be nothing. And, why should he keep trying to convince me otherwise. Cool off from what? Any cooler and we won't be in the desert anymore....view more"