Married 23yrs, sexless, some DV, What should I do?

I understand what I should HAVE done but no job or career not so easy to leave. He has always been somewhat controling, he's hit me several times but I stuck up for myself and hit him back in defense. We have no emotional connection anymore and I don't want to have sex with him. I want to leave but I can't, cause no job/career, money and at the same time I feel guilt for wanting to leave because we've been together so long and how I can leave my grown childrens father, he's getting older and I'll feel awful for not sticking to my marriage. I'm so scared to leave and be with someone else cause I don't know them and how can I trust another man. I have no clue what to do. Please give me advise but be understanding that things are easier said then done. Thank you!
By ContessaAnn 9 years ago :: Marriage
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