How to handle a Goldigging Mother-in-law??

My husband and I have been married for 4 years and known each other a total of 6 years. His Mother hasn't been to our home not one single time. I have seen her only about 4 times by being with him when he went to her home. I have twin girls and one other daughter from a previous relationship and one child with him. I am 9 years older than him. His Mother hated our relationship from the start because of my age and my kids is what she told him.
His Mother put him out at 16 and wasn't in his life except when he got paid on weekends she would invite him over. She would get money from him. When she found out about me she knew the money would stop. Though she still would seek money from him. He would explain that he had bills now and kids. She would then get mad and stop answering his calls. He has 2 teenage siblings that she won't allow him to see if she is mad about money. She will even get the siblings to call and ask for money. When I invite his family over for holidays she will find an excuse to not show up. He is torn cause he wants to see them for holidays but doesn't want to leave us alone for holidays. I don't think it's fair for us to always go to her house. Whenever he goes to visit her I stay at home. I don't want to go where I'm not wanted. She has never made an attempt to even see where we live. I told him to stop throwing himself at her feet and stop trying to buy her love. A Mother's love doesn't have to be purchased! Am I wrong for saying this?
By Lowalker 9 years ago :: Marriage
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