How long after a breakup should I wait to ask my ex-boyfriend's friend out for drinks. Or is he off limits?

I'm 25 years old and just getting out of a 3 year relationship. There was a lot of fighting between my boyfriend and I, especially during the last year. I realized my heart was not in the relationship and perhaps never was. During the time we were together I developed feelings for his friend and co-worker who I've known longer than my now ex-boyfriend. At first it was just a crush, but, after spending so much time with him I've learned that he's not only very attractive he's also genuinely kind-hearted, gracious, reserved and smart. He's the kind of guy who is beautiful and has NO idea he is, the opposite of my ex. He's also smart and shares more interests with me than my ex did. I could go on and on... In short he's perfect! Except for one thing, he's my ex-boyfriends friend. If I wait 6 months... a year... (Believe me he's worth waiting for.) I NEED to know if it ever okay to call him up and ask him out on a date or tell him how I feel?
By CrazyFox 10 years ago :: Dating
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