Do lifestyle expectations ever fully change for a woman, to the point that she can be happy?

I make decent money ( $130,000/year) but I'm not rich. I am pretty generous (in my eyes) with my money for my gf. We go to an expensive restaurant once a week. For Christmas, I spent over $2000 for a necklace for her. I have only been going out with her for 7 months. I also bought her a $4,000 Chanel bag early in the relationship. I didn't want to, but basically she asked me for one and I said "yes", thinking to myself that I would get it on her birthday or something. She, however, expected it that week, and threatened to break up with me if I didn't get it. FInally, on her birthday, most girls get a birthday dinner....she got a vacation to the Caribbean, paid by me of course. Meanwhile, my savings is dipping for the first time in my life, and I don't like it.

You may be wondering why I'm still with her. Well, here's why....I ended up breaking up with her over it a while ago. She was being too demanding and I said screw it. She ended up begging me to take her back. Since then, whenever she asks for something I can't afford, I just say "no" and that's that. She has said that she is ok with it now, and doesn't demand anything. However, she keeps asking me to get a new job and ask me what my ambitions are. I don't want to sound like a loser with no ambitions, but I think I am doing just fine.

Anyway, this is the problem. Her parents are loaded. She is used to a certain lifestyle from her dad. Now, I could care less how much her parents have and I don't want a penny of it. What I am concerned about is whether or not she can accept not having that kind of money for the rest of her life. In a way, I can't fault her. If I were asked to downgrade my standard of living, I don't think it's that easy to do. Also, she is trying. From where we started to where she is now, she is more reasonable. Unfortunately, the only way I can get her to change is to break up with her when she is being a spoiled brat.

Is there hope here? I don't want to spend the rest of my life trying to live up to a standard of living that I don't even feel is necessary. I also don't want a wife who always feels that she took a step down in life. Finally, I am worried that she's just changing to keep me, and if we get married, she will revert back.
By Johnp1996 9 years ago :: Dating
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