My girlfriend asked if I wanted to have a threesome.... With another guy.

My gf and I have been dating for a year or more and we have been talking about getting married alot reciently. I have been on cloud nine and thought I had found the one.

The only concern I have is she is 20 and I'm 27. She still has that 21 run crazyness to go through, but she doesn't drink much and says she doesn't think anything will change much except we can go out together once she's 21.

I work graveyard and am not home 5 nights a week "we live together" and I trust her and hadent had any issues with her loyalty before.

This brings me to the night before Christmas. We had a few drinks and were talking about fantasys and she asked what I thought about a threesome.... I said I wasn't sure, if we did I wouldent want to touch the other girl because I didn't want it to effect our relationship.

She said she had had threesomes with girls and was more thinking about me and another guy. I sat there stunned and she said maybe with my brstfriend because it's someone we could trust. I know my brstfriend would never do it and is a loyal friend.

My wine glass flew against the wall and I flipped out.

She doesn't understand why I'm mad. She says it's a fantasy is all and she can go through the rest of her life without fulfilling it and it's not on her checklist of stuff she has to do before she dies, and that I should feel honored that she can trust me enough to tell me her deepest fantasys.

To me i take it as I'm the only one in the relationship that doesn't want to sleep with other people. I don't know am I missing something?
By Justice 9 years ago :: Dating
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