How do I tell my wife she is seriously overweight and is sexually unappealing to me?

When I married my wife five years ago, she was 5' tall, and about 100 lbs. She was very petite and pretty. I am very attracted to women who are slim and petite. She has since put on about thirty five pounds. She is almost in complete denial about it. For example, she doesn't understand why her jeans don't fit anymore. This woman is intelligent. I don't find her sexually attractive now. She keeps asking me, "Do you think I'm overweight?", "Do you think my stomach is fat?", "Do you think I'm ugly?" How do I say, "Yes, you are so fat that you barely resemble the person I married. I don't want to make love to you because I no longer feel attracted to you." ???
By 9 years ago :: Marriage
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