What is your POV on this situation?

Hiya, I'm 15, and my first boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. We went out for about 1 1/2 years which is extremely long for our age group, and I was probably his 7th or 8th girlfriend.

He ignored me for 4 weeks before we separated and during that time he only spoke to me if I talked to him first, and he rejected 99% of all my hugs and kisses. I actually asked him for a hug many times, but when I tried to give him a kiss on the cheek he backed away from me.

When he broke up with me, I said to him "I was honestly gonna break up with you today but I decided not to because I still Love you. So if you wanna break up with me you have to do it yourself" Then he broke up with me.

Since then I've been very sad and we rarely talk and like before, he only talks to me when I speak to him first. He rarely comes on MSN but he's starting to come on now, and although my ex was a very shy guy, he was still comfortable around me when we were going out.

I didn't fully try to get over him because I was thinking there might be a chance where he might still have feelings for me but when I asked him a few days ago if it would be better for us if I tried to get over him, he said he thought it would be best. That hurt a lot, but I feel more sad and happy at the same time. Some days I something think I see him looking at me and some days it's like he has no clue who I am.

Sorry if this is too long. How should I deal with this situation and what do you think he's thinking about? He never told me why he broke up with me, and I said to him, "You're still not gonna tell me why you broke up with me, right?" after I asked about if it would be better for us question...and he didn't reply for the whole night and eventually signed off.

Before any of this happened, I had been complaining to him a lot about my grades and when he made me feel bad I'd get angry at him and give him the silent treatment and cancel our plans for the day. Is my annoyingness and whining part of the reason why? Why do you think he did this?

...Thanks guys :(

Sorry, I forgot to add one thing. We broke up in person and a few days after I called him to ask him why he broke up and he wouldn't tell me.
By 8 years ago :: Dating
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