Boyfriend uninvited me to a party that he is going to?

My boyfriend has been talking about a show (concert) all week, I later find it out that it is actually house party with 5 bands. Most of the people who are going to be there are people from his work who he has known for about 6 months, but people I have known for years, but don't really hang out with much.

We kinda have an understanding that sometimes he just wants to go out alone which I am totally fine with, but yesterday he asked me if I was coming to the show with him (he told me he wanted to go alone before that day) and I said yes. I was looking forward to it all day at work and all afternoon. He watched me get ready before the party. On the way to the party we had stopped for pizza we were talking about where it was and he said "...yeah, you can just drop me off at the corner when we get there." I was stunned. I was like wtf are you talking about? He was acting like that was the plan all along . I got angry and he was like "I don't know, I figure you would hate the music and the stupid people there so I figured you would just want to drop me off." I told him I didn't get all dolled up to eat a slice! I just felt like garbage, after all I had just gotten made up and got excited about it all day (as he watched me!). He was then like, 'no, come with me', blah blah.

I didn't want a fight and I was angry so he went to the show and I am now home. I cried and took all my clothes and makeup off. All the good bars in walking distance are having a fraternity pub crawl (yuck) and now I am really in the mean reds.

Am I overreacting? Do I have a right to be upset? I really wanted to go that party, but I don't want to F$$cking appease him or take any pity. Any advice?
By 8 years ago :: Dating
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