How can I get to a size 4?

Ok, so here's my question:

My boyfriend and I have been dating eight months and so far everything is just peachy. We are talking about marriage, the future, ect. When he first met me I was about 5 pounds heavier than I am now.

He is really into the gym and building muscle. He is in softball, tennis, basketball and a ton of other sports and is really athletic. He works out 3 times a week weightlifting as well.

Recently it seems he is watching what I eat and encouraging me to exercise more and more. He says he likes me how I am, but he keeps pushing salads on me and recently he wanted me to start jogging with him. He never jogs. He also said I need to go on a makeover show for my clothing because it's always baggy and makes me look pounds heavier than I am. I got upset by this and he apologized profusely.

I don't understand it. I don't drink soda, I don't eat at any fast food place and I exercise every day. I typically skate 10 miles a day, or am in the gym for an hour-two hours a day doing cardio or whatnot. I take walks and I run with a friend through parks. Every day has some activity in it. I even started eating water with my cereal to cut out milk in the morning. I eat a weight watchers frozen meal for lunch and maybe a piece of cheese on a slice of bread in the evening (sometimes another weight watchers meal, too).

The weight doesn't budge. The only difference is 5 pounds, but that came off 7 months ago and stayed that way. I am in a healthy BMI weight range for my height, but at the extreme higher end of it. I am 5'7" and 157 pounds. I am trying so hard to lose weight, but I would rather not show off my body and wear baggy things instead. I don't eat any candy, ever. I hate chocolate bars. My caloric intake each day is about 1400 calories total. I try to zig-zag that, too. I even got tested for my thyroid, and it came back normal.

My roommate is a size 00. She is constantly eating oreos, smokes like a chimney, and has a huge cake in the fridge belonging to her. She never exercises, ever. My boyfriend made some comment when I moved in with her that maybe her size will make me want to be skinny. Thing is, I already try to be.. very much so.

So, what am I missing? I thought I have everything together, but I'm a size 10 and sometimes an 8 - why can't I lose the weight? Do I need to work out for three hours a day versus the hour-two hours I put in now? I will continue to wear baggy clothing until something happens, and if it's too baggy or unattractive for my boyfriend, so be it.
By Grassded 8 years ago :: General
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