How do I stop from being left out and feeling left out?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years. We went to and graduated from the same high school, and subsequently, have a lot of the same friends. We're in college now, and attend seperate universities (though only 40 mins away).
I'm the only one of my friends who attend my university, and while I get along great with my roommate, I don't really have a lot of time to socialize with 20 hour weeks of work plus a full load of credits.
My boyfriend, on the other hand, goes to a university where A LOT of our friends attend, and lives in an off campus apartment.
It seems like everyother night they're having some of our high school friends at his apartment, and I haven't been invited once by him.
I told him that I really feel left out because while he's out having the time of his life, I'm usually locked away in a study room bored out of my mind. I talk to him during these times, and tell him how I feel left out, and he usually seems sad and feels bad for me. But, if he really felt bad, I would think he would invite me over the next time all of our friends do something together...
This leads to the next part of my question... because when I push the subject, he will sometimes ask if "he can do anything without me, and with his friends?" Which, of course, the answer is yes.
But, when he's with OUR friends, where am I supposed to go? If he were to want to get some time away from me, he may go to a friends party. Yet, if I had wanted to do anything that night with our friends... I can't.

I don't know what to do... how can I stop from feeling left out, or how can I stop him from leaving me out.
By Tanica 8 years ago :: Dating
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