am I really the one being selfish here? Or do i deserve some affection as well?!

So I am twenty and my boyfriend is 22 years old, we moved in together when i became pregnant last year and now we have a daughter of a few months.. a few years together we have always had our differences but its never been this worst. After i became pregnant, he no longer wanted to touch me nor did he demonstrate affection, only when he wanted to ask me for oral sex..

Now that i am no longer pregnant, I have noticed that things have worsened.. We dont have sex because I am still not ready for it i am still recuperating from giving birth.. BUT he would ask for oral sex, and then I would tell him sure but he would need to show me affection as well, you know just to get me in the mood.. & he will put the excuse that I should be wanting to do that because he is my man but I keep asking until he gives in but by then I am feeling bad because i shouldnt plead a man to please me. I love to get back rubs and so i try any way possible to get one from him, wether its through bets or whatever.. it happens to be that the past few times he has asked me for oral,, I have him promise me he will owe me a back rub.. and now it happens to be that he never wants to.. either he is too tired cus he works and i dont or he says he doesnt have time fo himself so how could i think he has time for that.. But see I dont have a job but i stay home & take care of the baby day and night BY MYSELF and do all the chores nessesary so thats a job there). & it gets me mad he says he doesnt have time for himself so he cnt give me a backrub but yet when there is a game or a fight, he takes out the time. Even to play a video game, go out and smoke with his friend or even just ask me for oral he obviously has time but not for me,.. & then when i complain to him that its not fair he gets what he wnats and i dont he says "what.. once a f***** week? please! you dont do nothing either! .. you should be doing that everyday". So its so unfair cus i do it more than once a week & not to mention even in times he dont ask i go ahead and do it.. but why treat
By ladycop 8 years ago :: Marriage
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