Am I wrong to not want my mother in law to come stay with us for 2 weeks when I'm about to give birth any day?

My mother in law invited herself to stay at our house for 2 weeks so she could "get a break" but I'm about to have a baby any day now. Granted this is my second child, but I haven't been around a newborn in 11 years! This will also be my first time trying to learn how to breastfeed and frankly it's been a rough year. My DH just got over total knee reconstrunction and I was 7 months pregnant taking care of him when he couldn't walk. His mother didn't come help me then! He is so upset that I don't want his mother to stay for 2 weeks, which I didn't say she couldn't come for the weekend or something (she only lives 2 hours away) but two whole weeks?!!!???? My 11 year old is going to stay with my mom for a week and he won't even be there. I'm a really private person and I just want time to bond with the new baby. Plus his mother is very glamorous and it's not like she will be there to really assist me....it's more like I will have to cater to her. Furthermore, when she visits she always invites a houseful of her relatives and friends as she used to live in this area. And not to sound paranoid...but a 23 month old just passed away from the swine flu in our area and I really don't want all those people breathing over a newborn! HELP!
By leletxlady 10 years ago :: Family (Extended)
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