Is it unreasonable for me to not want my husband to use anger with our three year old son?

When my son acts up I like to use a calm voice and put him on the naughty chair and my husband yells and gets angry and sometimes even throws or hits thing in front of my son. Now I notice my son is really angry and is always mad at little things. The worst part is my son worships the ground my husband walks on. I have tried to say things to my husband but he looks at me like I am so calm and that is the reason my son is bad because I dont use major discipline what should I do should i be more aggresive with my son or am I right with my actions?