What do I do about my boyfriends jealous and instigative behavior?
My boyfriend is perfect for me except for one thing..his non trusting issues. A long time ago he was in a 4 year relationship and on their anniversary he walked in on his gf having sex with another guy. I know this has scarred him and has left him with trust issues, but I would never do ANYTHING to hurt him. I am in love with this guy, but no matter what I say I know in the back of his head his mind is racing.
He questions me sometimes like if I've had any guys over at my house or what I did during the day. Then he makes comments about what I wear. Like my halloween costume he basically said that I needed to cover up. Honestly, my costume is not short at all. I even got my brothers opinion, my best friend and her boyfriends opinion. He says he doesn't want me to give guys a reason to stare at me. He doesn't want me talking to guys, flirting or touching at all. I don't know what to do. We always get into arguments about this same issue. It's not that I purposely want to flirt, but I do like having conversations with people including those of the opposite sex. I don't know what to do. I'm not a little girl and don't like being told what I can and can't do. And when he questions me, its just negative reinforcement.
We have been only dating for 3 months and I only fear that it will get worse. I really love him, care about him and want to be with him but what can i try to do to fix it or at least gradually get better? Couples counseling?? HELP ME PLEEASE!
He questions me sometimes like if I've had any guys over at my house or what I did during the day. Then he makes comments about what I wear. Like my halloween costume he basically said that I needed to cover up. Honestly, my costume is not short at all. I even got my brothers opinion, my best friend and her boyfriends opinion. He says he doesn't want me to give guys a reason to stare at me. He doesn't want me talking to guys, flirting or touching at all. I don't know what to do. We always get into arguments about this same issue. It's not that I purposely want to flirt, but I do like having conversations with people including those of the opposite sex. I don't know what to do. I'm not a little girl and don't like being told what I can and can't do. And when he questions me, its just negative reinforcement.
We have been only dating for 3 months and I only fear that it will get worse. I really love him, care about him and want to be with him but what can i try to do to fix it or at least gradually get better? Couples counseling?? HELP ME PLEEASE!
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