Three years and still no ring. Should wait it out - he lost his job and is facing problems - or flee?

I love my boyfriend. We've been dating 3.5 years -- most of which long distance. We dated for 6 months on the same city, and it was magical. We fell in love, but we both knew I was taking a job out of the country when the relationship began. We decided to stay together. love is hard to find. But with internet, video phone, skpye, vonage, and occaisional international travel arrangements, We dated internationally for a year and a half. At the end of that time, my boyfriend hurt himself. He had to get a surgery and took some leave from work. Too much time off and he lost his job. Making the best of the situation, he returned to school to finish his BA. But, he started being more distant, more unhappy with his situation in life. He moved back into his parents house. I was able to return to the U.S., but we were still 3 hours drive apart. I invited him to move in with me, he said he couldn't because of physical therapy. He finished his physical therapy and my 30th birthday rolled around, and I begged him (2 years younger than I) to move in with me so that we could see each other more often. He said he needed to finish his degree. He finished his degree and I again had to travel internationally for work, he agreed to come with me. We spent two months living together, and is wasn't great. He was bored alot not into being a "housewife". We returned to the U.S. and he moved back in with his parents, 3 hours away. He's still looking for a job, thinking about returning to school for some advanced degrees. He's getting depressed that he is still out of work. He says he won't move in with me because his support system is with his parents and friends in his home state. He found a part time job he hates. I have tried to be supportive. Patient, loving. I know this man loves me. But, he won't choose to be with me (despite all the problems economic and physical). I want him to move in with me, make a life with me. He says he can't committ to me until he gets himself right. I love him. I have 3 options:
1) Be miserable that I only get to see my boyfriend once a month, but hope that one day he can move in together and start a family.
2) Date other people. Open up my options. I'm 31 now and I don't want to be single forever. I want to get married and all that.
3) Break up. Perhaps he won't move in with me because, there's some reason he's holding back from asking me to marry him or at least accepting my invitation to move in with me so that we can live in the same state.

I love him, and I don't want to lose him. But, I'm tired of having a telephone relationship. Am I being unreasonable? What should I do?
By lifesruff 15 years ago :: Dating
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