who should make the first move?

So we have been together for 3 years on feb 3. i wake in the mood for som pleasuring and i know he is in the mood cuz its up. he lays there expecting me to start it off but by me bieng a women i want him to start it off it makes me feel like im still wanted so because we are just laying in the bed looking at the ceiling he gets mad and get up and walks out the door so i then began to please my self Q1: was i wrong not to start it off ? Q2: was i wrong to still pleasure myself?