how to talk and express my feelings to my husband?

due to the not so good relationship of my dad and my husband..my husband is beggining to lose his respect for me..if he feels bad about my dad why should i suffer the consequences,,am trying not make this a big deal and not trying to open to my husband how i feel because i feel there so much hatred for my dad.i dont want to burden him..i always have a hard time talking to him about how i feel about our relationship.because he does not want.everytime i start to talk about it..he goes away or even get mad..for me i want to settle things so it wont stay inside me..i fear i might blow out or flare up without control of what i have to say...hurts me a lot..help me.