Husband's business travel offer...what's the best approach?
Hi everyone,
My husband has been given the option to travel to NJ for work, where he would probably be staying for a month. He does not generally have to travel for work at all, and I don't want him to go...but I don't want to be a bitch about it, either.
Side note: I DO travel a bit for business (but only for a couple of days at a time), so I understand that business travel is 1) exhausting, and 2) boring, so it's not that I think he's going to be living it up in Jersey while he's gone. I also lived in Jersey for 10 years, so I know that it's not that glamorous...
Here's why I don't want him to go:
1. I love him. I like to have him around. We're newlyweds.
2. I don't want to be alone in my house for a month.
3. Business travel sucks, and there is NO extra money involved/advancement potential that will come as a result of this. If either of these "benefits" were the case, it would be a different story. As someone who does travel, I don't think it's worth it.
4. We are trying to have a baby. Obviously, he needs to be here if that's going to happen.
5. A month is a REALLY long time. If it was a week...no problem. But a MONTH?
My husband has asked me for my opinion and I know that he will listen to me...but here's the problem: If I tell him not to go, I'm afraid that I'll seem like a bitch or like I'm unsupportive.
What is the best way to approach this?
Thanks!
My husband has been given the option to travel to NJ for work, where he would probably be staying for a month. He does not generally have to travel for work at all, and I don't want him to go...but I don't want to be a bitch about it, either.
Side note: I DO travel a bit for business (but only for a couple of days at a time), so I understand that business travel is 1) exhausting, and 2) boring, so it's not that I think he's going to be living it up in Jersey while he's gone. I also lived in Jersey for 10 years, so I know that it's not that glamorous...
Here's why I don't want him to go:
1. I love him. I like to have him around. We're newlyweds.
2. I don't want to be alone in my house for a month.
3. Business travel sucks, and there is NO extra money involved/advancement potential that will come as a result of this. If either of these "benefits" were the case, it would be a different story. As someone who does travel, I don't think it's worth it.
4. We are trying to have a baby. Obviously, he needs to be here if that's going to happen.
5. A month is a REALLY long time. If it was a week...no problem. But a MONTH?
My husband has asked me for my opinion and I know that he will listen to me...but here's the problem: If I tell him not to go, I'm afraid that I'll seem like a bitch or like I'm unsupportive.
What is the best way to approach this?
Thanks!
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