Sexual Expectations

Side 1 says... My husband and I have been together for over 8 years. We have some kind of sex at least 3-4 times a week usually 6-7, if we aren't having sex then he's asking for hand jobs or head. He doesn't understand my sex drive isn't the same as his. I still accommodate him without complaint most of the time. I made a minor request for him to initiate sex is some way other than "want to have sex" sometimes. Like for example if he wants to wake me up from my sleep maybe kissing on me or something would make me more receptive (I kinda love my sleep and am not really happy to be woke up).

He got back from a 5 day job a few days ago about the time I was heading to work, he went to the dentist and got two wisdom teeth pulled, when he got home I gave him a hand job before he went to sleep, he woke up a little later and we had sex before we went to sleep. The next night he mentioned having sex during a movie, we didn't because he didn't actually do anything to get me in the mood, he fell asleep during the movie, when we went to bed I asked him if he wanted to have sex but he declined. He then tried so wake me up in the middle of the night and I said sure with an attitude, he said never mind and we didn't. Then he woke up this morning and was in a grumpy mood because we didn't have sex the night before. I feel like I offered, same as he always does and he didn't want to, then I said sure and he again changed his mind (due to my pissy attitude). He feels like because I want him to initiate sex in some other way some times that means I should always do they too, even though he rarely does. I also think him getting an attitude and acting like he's so abused because he's been gone for 5 days and I haven't locked him in the room to have sex for days.