#17039

Semper_Cogitans

  • Semper_Cogitans is ranked #17,039 on sidetaker9 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side Using My DVDs As Coasters
    Chiiiilies regardless the reasons you want to either replace the carpet, or why you don't want the kids to watch these movies you're teaching them bad habits.


    What would you do after the carpet is replaced or when they grab a good DVD?


    That's poor parenting and child like behavior by trying to excuse it.
    5 years ago for 0 points
  • voted for jobe11 (side 1) on the side Using My DVDs As Coasters 5 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side If He Strays I Won't Stay
    How similar is this, except this one has been on hold for 3 years...




    I'll keep my thoughts short and sweet..


    Waterjen:
    Don't feel like throwing a marriage of 26 years away? Get Help...


    You don't' like the ultimatum....well he doesn't like the one you've given for the last 3 years.




    This is all on you....Period.
    5 years ago for 0 points
  • voted for red999 (side 2) on the side If He Strays I Won't Stay 5 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side No Sex Here
    To ignore the fact that he does have sexual desires because you're on medication and then demand that he accept that fate, possibly for the rest of your life...That's ridiculous.
    You demand sympathy for your situation, well what about his? Do you expect him to never have sex again?


    As far as medications go, yes there are side effects, however, there are also counter medications to take to affect your libido.


    While I don't agree with the idea of an open marriage, to expect someone to be faithful to you till death do you part, without having their needs met, and it is a need, is extremely controlling. So yeah, you do have control and I'd say you've done a bang up job since it's been a year's time.


    Why not thank him for understanding that entire year and being faithful to you, and counter his idea with one of your own of correcting your libido instead of relegating him to a marriage of misery.
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • voted for foixgras (side 1) on the side No Sex Here 6 years ago for 5 points
  • voted for 45over2 (side 2) on the side Mad At Me For Thread Count 6 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side Tired Of My Boyfriends Lifestyle And Friends.
    Interesting as my post was doubled, it's also interesting as Greybeard pointed out that it was the men's comments that were down voted...


    So, it makes on wonder if someone really is after advice, or just after what they want to hear.
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • commented on the side Tired Of My Boyfriends Lifestyle And Friends.
    Seriously??

    Heather2889...Please look at what you have said here below...

    " I was hesitant about starting our relationship in the beginning, he pursued me hard and would not accept being just friend's although I raised many concerns."

    " He's been a terrible influence on me and I started smoking as well after dating him. I don't want this in my life, and I'm not sure I see him being a healthy long term partner if things do not change. I don't want to start a family with a drug user, even if it is pot."

    You have the audacity to say he undermines your opinions and feelings???
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • commented on the side Tired Of My Boyfriends Lifestyle And Friends.
    Seriously??

    Heather2889

    " I was hesitant about starting our relationship in the beginning, he pursued me hard and would not accept being just friend's although I raised many concerns."

    " He's been a terrible influence on me and I started smoking as well after dating him. I don't want this in my life, and I'm not sure I see him being a healthy long term partner if things do not change. I don't want to start a family with a drug user, even if it is pot."



    You have the audacity to say he undermines your opinions and feelings???
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • commented on the side Every Single Time!
    No vote for either side because there is too little real info...
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • commented on the side Breastfeeding A Toddler
    Perhaps you're right there. But this is a situation in which I've seen many women go all out on, and when she basically pitted her entire family against him, that was the major warning flag.


    I just hope that they can work together to find what works best for them, not other people, or what other people think is best.
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • commented on the side Breastfeeding A Toddler
    First off, allow your husband to ask his questions and display his feelings towards this. It doesn't sound as if he wanted to start any type of debate about it at your parents' house, or it's likely this posting would be different.


    Secondly, this is a good thing that has come up because now you know that your husband feels awkward and has reservations with this style of longevity in breast feeding. So it's a good time to discuss it like adults and find out how you two will raise your family if the time comes.


    The final thing that is important is that you're open to his opinion on the matter. Because it may not have been intentional, but you've definitely set your husband's opinions to the side with yours, and set it out as you and your family against him on this matter. That is the reason why I selected his side over yours.
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • voted for tossed (side 1) on the side Breastfeeding A Toddler 6 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side The Case For Having A Family
    Make sure the legacy you leave isn't a bad start in life.

    Look Rubyslips, right here is the worst reason..."I just want a baby".



    There are plenty of people who use that as a reason, bring to light the ticking clock of the female body and it's urges. But you need to reign in those and realize that you two are still on thin ice.
    Just because you're no longer in freezing water, doesn't mean that it won't give way again.


    You two have well paying jobs, a lot more than most people right now. Pay down your debt, make sure your family's foundation is strong when you go to build it, or it will crumble.
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • voted for hubby (side 2) on the side The Case For Having A Family 6 years ago for 5 points
  • voted for LevelUpper77 (side 2) on the side Too Tight With My Sister 6 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side Where To Spend Thanksgiving Is The Issue
    Well I'm definitely a late comer here, but my two cents is to go to his parent's house. Forming a tradition of choosing one family over another is absurd. And how many times has his parents been alone for holidays becuase they lived further away?


    Anyways, so what did you two decide to do?
    6 years ago for 0 points
  • voted for jingleballz (side 2) on the side Where To Spend Thanksgiving Is The Issue 6 years ago for 5 points
  • commented on the side Oldest Daughter Won't Leave The House
    I do understand what a pain it is to find a job out there, I truly do somekindsoul, however, your daughter has one hell of an advantage. She's got a degree.


    While many doors have been barred shut, there are always places that are looking for an educated and talented person with the skills. By not putting stronger pressure on her, you are enabling her to not succeed.


    It's time to stop being a doting parent and time to be a caring parent. Start pushing that fledgling out of the nest, and let it learn to fly. Or itwill find that it's much easier to fail because there's always a safety net to catch it.
    6 years ago for 0 points