Am I missing something? Is it my fault? Why can the people you love be so mean and rude?

I was out. She went to get her hair done. I said I would go get the food shopping so she didn't have to. She called me when she left. I said hello. She straight away launched into how she thinks shes given her a fringe and she doesn't like it. I said I'm sure it looks nice. She said she didn't think so and now shes stuck. I asked why didn't she say something about it. She SCREAMED "Because she had already done it!" I said, ok, please don't shout at me. She then screamed again "Then don't ask such stupid questions" I said "ok" She hung up. I sat for a while and thought that was unfair, so sent her a text saying 'thanks for that'. Probably not very mature but you don't hang up on people. Its just rude.

That is the last she has spoken to me. That was saturday. She came home that afternoon and locked herself in the bedroom. She left for work while I was in the shower without saying goodbye. That evening I cooked dinner and attempted a conversation but was met mainly with silence. Went to bed. In silence. I had training in the morning so got up and left the house at 6:15am. Kissed her goodbye like I always do when I leave her asleep. On the cross trainer and who walks past with headphone in her ears and looking the other way? She does. (I think that was pretty obvious)

I went to work and decided to try again so sent and email saying I wasn't really sure what was going on and that clearly you aren't ready to talk. I said why I was upset/angry. I got one back basically saying that she is so furious she can't even talk to me or she will thump me and say something she will regret. I didn't say the right things on the phone, she was looking for support and calming not stupid questions. My text was unnecessary and just shitty. I take everything personally and made something an us problem rather than just a problem. She also said that I will 'always have the moral high ground' coz she shouts when she is angry and I don't. its not better or worse, its just different.

I emailed back saying that after that email I can't really explain how I feel plus it never comes across correctly as you lose tone of voice. Can we talk at home. She said fine. Got home, she was busy working and still had a strop on. Tried a pleasant conversation, not having any of it. So she went to bed without saying anything. I came to bed a few hours later. She got up and sat on the sofa. I fell asleep and she was gone when I got up.
By rb_dxb 9 years ago :: Dating
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