My boyfriend was coming to visit this weekend but my roommate reneged on her promise to be gone...
My boyfriend and I attend different colleges, so when we are at school, we're 3 hours apart. Three hours isn't that long of a drive, but it's long enough for a weekend visit to require a bit of planning.
We have been planning on this visit for two and a half weeks. Upon first making plans, I checked with my roommate/best friend to make sure she would be at her boyfriends (she practically lives there; in the past month she has only spent 4 or 5 nights in our room). She said that she was and that my boyfriend's visit would be no problem.
Fast forward to a few days ago... My roommates boyfriend will be out of town the same time my boyfriend is supposed to visit.
Her side:
She's sorry that her plans changed, but will now be staying in our room because she doesn't want to go through the trouble of finding a friend to stay with. It's her room too.
My side:
It takes a good bit of effort for my boyfriend and I to plan a visit because of our school schedules and work schedules. We've both been working extra hard to get ahead in our studies and he has already asked for a day off of work. We haven't seen each other in 3 weeks and won't be able to plan another visit for at least 2 more weeks. It's also a somewhat special weekend for us because we didn't get to spend Valentine's Day together. I know it's her room and as a roommate she has every right to stay here, but from the friend side of this... I think won't go the slightest bit out of her way to accommodate. She could very easily sleep in a friend's room (this is a major college campus, and she has lots of friends who would gladly let her stay with them) but she hasn't even asked anyone. She's (more or less) saying "tough shit, deal with it." It makes me so angry because she gets to spend the night with her boyfriend nearly every night, so it isn't a bid deal to her. On the other hand, I hardly ever get to spend the night with my boyfriend so it's a big deal to me.
I think she is being a bad friend who reneged on her promise because mitigating circumstances would slightly inconvenience her. I would gladly spend two nights on a friend's couch if the scenario were reversed.
We have been planning on this visit for two and a half weeks. Upon first making plans, I checked with my roommate/best friend to make sure she would be at her boyfriends (she practically lives there; in the past month she has only spent 4 or 5 nights in our room). She said that she was and that my boyfriend's visit would be no problem.
Fast forward to a few days ago... My roommates boyfriend will be out of town the same time my boyfriend is supposed to visit.
Her side:
She's sorry that her plans changed, but will now be staying in our room because she doesn't want to go through the trouble of finding a friend to stay with. It's her room too.
My side:
It takes a good bit of effort for my boyfriend and I to plan a visit because of our school schedules and work schedules. We've both been working extra hard to get ahead in our studies and he has already asked for a day off of work. We haven't seen each other in 3 weeks and won't be able to plan another visit for at least 2 more weeks. It's also a somewhat special weekend for us because we didn't get to spend Valentine's Day together. I know it's her room and as a roommate she has every right to stay here, but from the friend side of this... I think won't go the slightest bit out of her way to accommodate. She could very easily sleep in a friend's room (this is a major college campus, and she has lots of friends who would gladly let her stay with them) but she hasn't even asked anyone. She's (more or less) saying "tough shit, deal with it." It makes me so angry because she gets to spend the night with her boyfriend nearly every night, so it isn't a bid deal to her. On the other hand, I hardly ever get to spend the night with my boyfriend so it's a big deal to me.
I think she is being a bad friend who reneged on her promise because mitigating circumstances would slightly inconvenience her. I would gladly spend two nights on a friend's couch if the scenario were reversed.
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