Should I feel guilty that my grandfather chose to gave me my deceased grandmother's wedding & engagement rings

A few months ago, my grandfather heard that my necklace that contained my grandmother's (from the other side of the family) ashes had been stolen and I was devastated because it really meant a lot to me and told me the next time I came over he had something for me, but wanted to give it to me in private. Fast forward to yesterday, and he tearfully gave me his wife, my grandmother's engagement ring and wedding band. He rambled on about how he didn't think they were worth much (still, means everything to me!) because the diamonds are small and simple, the way she preferred. He talked about how we both treasure peace and simplicity, and said that he really wanted me to have them. He also gave me the impression that he didn't want to see others fight over something that to him represented her value of the simple things. I am so incredibly grateful for them, and would love to eventually have the engagement diamond reset for an engagement ring for me (my boyfriend and I have been together for years, live together, and often discuss getting married). I miss her so much, and I especially miss witnessing the love that she and my grandfather shared, so I love having the symbol of their love and commitment to each other.

The problem is that my grandmother also left behind 2 daughters and 5 granddaughters. I hadn't planned on telling anyone, but felt guilty for having them. I told two of my sisters, not expecting the negative reaction I received from one of them. The first sister yelled at me, told me it was unfair that I had them and that my aunts should have them, and when I felt so guilty I offered her one of the rings she then said she wanted nothing to do with them and the problems they would cause. However, when I told my oldest sister, she emphasized that I shouldn't feel guilty, because he gave them to me for a reason and I should cherish them and use them for my future engagement ring, as she would have wanted.

Sorry for the long story, I just wanted to give enough insight for other people to respond. I'm just really worry that I should feel guilty...
By evam13 9 years ago :: Family (Extended)
Copy The Code Below To Embed This Question On Your Site


Will AI take your job this year?
Find out