I don't know how to deal with my sister in law?

She just split up with my brother and she keeps trying to badmouth him to me like she thinks I'm going to take her side against my own brother! In the past I've supported her when I felt he was being unreasonable but at this point I don't think he is being unreasonable and she's telling lies about my family and upsetting our mother and using access to the children as a weapon against him.

She meets strangers on the internet for sex she'll call him in the early hours of the morning and demand that he (a non-driver) come to her house to collect the kids so that she can go out and party with people that she calls F*ck buddies that she meets online. He has to work, he can't be woken up unexepectedly in the middle of the night to come and babysit and then be badmouthed because he 'let the babies down' if he didn't agree to come over in the middle of the night to take the babies so she can party.

I struggle with how much I dislike her right now and I'm thinking that I can't say anything because she's a mean person who twists everything and tells loads of lies and I don't want her to stop me seeing my nephews and neice.

She pretended to have a serious medical condition and because I work at the hospital and have had genuine reason to access her medical notes on more than one occasion I know that she's lying badly. She pretends that she had a blood clot on the lungs or a brain lesion and uses these fake medical conditions for sympathy and to force my elderly and genuinely ill mother to look after the children but I know she's lying and I can't even say anything about it because of patient condidentiality.

But the stress is really getting to my mother. My mother was told to not have any sudden shocks as she has a heart condition and this woman is calling her drunk in the middle of the night and screaming abuse at her.

I want to find a way to deal with this situation in a mature and sensible way but I get so emotional when she upsets my mum and I just feel like I want to slap her face. I don't know how to deal with her. It would be easy to just explode and scream at her but then I'd lose contact with her kids (my neice and nephews). I feel like I really need to keep control of myself because if I allowed myself to express my anger towards her then I'd just explode. She is 25 and weighs 32 stone and she posts pornographic videos of herself eating chocolate cake and doing sex acts on websites that cater for men who like larger women. I need to deal with her but I need to get over my emotions because getting angry isn't going to resolve this situation is it?
By 9 years ago :: Family (Extended)
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