Inviting My Mom On His Family Vacation
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Side 1 says...
My fiance and I are going on a caribbean vacation with his family next March, paid for by his parents. His brother & sister & their partners are going too. I'd like to ask his parents if they're OK with inviting my mom to come too. (She'd pay her own way of course). My fiance says no way no how. My mom has met his parents and sister before, and she's a super nice relaxed, easy-going person. She has never travelled outside the country, and because my dad hates travelling, she never has a chance too. I'd love to give her the chance to go somewhere beautiful, and for our families to spend some time together before we get hitched (they live far away from each other and from us so no chance otherwise). My fiance says I should just take a vacation with my mom on my own, but I don't have the time or $$$ to go on lots of big trips, and anyway I'd like him to spend more time with her too. I say no harm in asking his parents & if they're not comfortable with it, then we won't pursue it!!! He says it's inappropriate to even suggest it, and somewhat selfish of me to keep bringing it up.
Added by jen742 (female)
Side 2 says...
My family has a history of somewhat exotic family vacations, but now that my siblings and I are near 30's, we haven't taken one in a long time (>10 yrs). The reason for this vacation starts with the death of my grandmother, who was very close to my parents, and who sometimes joined us on vacation. She left my parents money, and they decided to use it to take their children on what is likely to be our last family vacation -- just like old times, except that they also invited our partners along.
This is a special trip for me and my family, and I just feel like it would be very awkward to have my fiancee's mother along. We don't know each other well (we've met twice), and I feel like I'd have to act a bit differently around her, rather than just relaxing and enjoying myself. I also think that my siblings would be uncomfortable, so that it might affect their trip too. Finally, given that my fiancee herself was invited to join us, I don't think that it's her place to invite her mother.
I wish she could simply say: I disagree with your rationale, but I respect your feelings; and given that it's your family's vacation, I can let it go. Otherwise, a dark cloud could follow us around the sunny Caribbean.
This is a special trip for me and my family, and I just feel like it would be very awkward to have my fiancee's mother along. We don't know each other well (we've met twice), and I feel like I'd have to act a bit differently around her, rather than just relaxing and enjoying myself. I also think that my siblings would be uncomfortable, so that it might affect their trip too. Finally, given that my fiancee herself was invited to join us, I don't think that it's her place to invite her mother.
I wish she could simply say: I disagree with your rationale, but I respect your feelings; and given that it's your family's vacation, I can let it go. Otherwise, a dark cloud could follow us around the sunny Caribbean.
Added by JTE33 (male)
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