The Girl Im Datin Is Giving Me An Ultimatum!!!
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Side 1 says...
Ive been seeing this girl on and of since 8 years back. During this time we have lost contact a couple of times, for obvious reasons, due to her having a boyfriend and me having a grilfriend. Anyways we have been acting like we are "a couple" without it beeing official for the past couple of years.
My dad past away last year and ive been emotionally unstable. During this time ive always said im not ready for a relationship. Not with her not with anyone else.
A couple of months back she put two toothbrushes in her batchroom. Last friday she took them away saying it was because it hurt her too much since i didnt want to make our relationship official and that having my toothbrush there reminded her of what she couldnt have...
I find this a bit strange. I can definently understand what she is saying but if she would have come over to my place and suddenly her toothbrush was gone she would most probably not think it was for emotional reasons. Get where im going...?
We have also had ALOT of arguements over bullshit matters lately. And I should also mention that she is a very sexual person (absolutely not in a slutty way) and often complain that we dont have enough sex. And yes im a lot less sexual than her.
One example of a bullshit thing we argued about is the fact that this last weekend she had given her key to her girlfriend so that she could go and have drunken sex on her bed with some guy. (Since she was going to spend the night at my place).
Now how many people would do that? Same bed we sleep and have sex on, she just gave to another couple to have sex on... This was her beeing nice to a friend.
(Does anyone think this is ok, would you just give up your home and bed to your friends to have sex on?)
Now in her defence i have to say that she is lojal and hasnt given me any reason to doubt her in the past. She is alway, without exception, there for me when i ask or need anything. She has my back 110%.
My point however is that how can i be involved with someone and make her happuy when im not happy with where i am emotionally and pshycologically at this point in my life?
Her answer to this is: "take a chance".
Take a chance? Seriously? Take a chance when we as it is right now fight all the time and pick on eachother? If its not stable now whats to say it will get stable if we commit??
Sigh...
My dad past away last year and ive been emotionally unstable. During this time ive always said im not ready for a relationship. Not with her not with anyone else.
A couple of months back she put two toothbrushes in her batchroom. Last friday she took them away saying it was because it hurt her too much since i didnt want to make our relationship official and that having my toothbrush there reminded her of what she couldnt have...
I find this a bit strange. I can definently understand what she is saying but if she would have come over to my place and suddenly her toothbrush was gone she would most probably not think it was for emotional reasons. Get where im going...?
We have also had ALOT of arguements over bullshit matters lately. And I should also mention that she is a very sexual person (absolutely not in a slutty way) and often complain that we dont have enough sex. And yes im a lot less sexual than her.
One example of a bullshit thing we argued about is the fact that this last weekend she had given her key to her girlfriend so that she could go and have drunken sex on her bed with some guy. (Since she was going to spend the night at my place).
Now how many people would do that? Same bed we sleep and have sex on, she just gave to another couple to have sex on... This was her beeing nice to a friend.
(Does anyone think this is ok, would you just give up your home and bed to your friends to have sex on?)
Now in her defence i have to say that she is lojal and hasnt given me any reason to doubt her in the past. She is alway, without exception, there for me when i ask or need anything. She has my back 110%.
My point however is that how can i be involved with someone and make her happuy when im not happy with where i am emotionally and pshycologically at this point in my life?
Her answer to this is: "take a chance".
Take a chance? Seriously? Take a chance when we as it is right now fight all the time and pick on eachother? If its not stable now whats to say it will get stable if we commit??
Sigh...
Added by TheJonathan (male)
Side 2 says...
Well its like this. I want him and he knows that. I want him more than anything.
And like he says im lojal and trustworthy.
I mooved his toothbrush from the bathroom because everytime i saw it, it hurt. I want him but he just doesnt want to commit.
He says he doesnt want to commit "right now" because he is not ready to get involved since he is emotionally unstable right now. And yes, sometimes you have to take a chance.
Letting my girlfriend borrow my appartment was a bad call but it didnt happen since i took my key back before they got there.
And yes we fight a lot lately but that doesnt change my feelings.
And like he says im lojal and trustworthy.
I mooved his toothbrush from the bathroom because everytime i saw it, it hurt. I want him but he just doesnt want to commit.
He says he doesnt want to commit "right now" because he is not ready to get involved since he is emotionally unstable right now. And yes, sometimes you have to take a chance.
Letting my girlfriend borrow my appartment was a bad call but it didnt happen since i took my key back before they got there.
And yes we fight a lot lately but that doesnt change my feelings.
Added by Logical (female)
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