How long should a marriage be miserable before divorce is the only option?

We have 3 wonderful children. My wife is a wonderful mother but not so good as a wife. I'm a decent dad but not so good as a husband. We don't get along. It is more like having a room mate than a spouse and I get mad just thinking of how unhappy we both are.
We both feel committed to the institution of marriage and the vows we made.....but how long do we go before we throw in the towel? I don't want to be unhappy for another 30 years.
By clark_griswald 9 years ago :: Marriage
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