I Still Pay Rent At My Old Home.
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Side 1 says...
In July 2006 my mom, brother, and I bought a house (my mother financed it) and all moved in together because we all needed a place to live. The agreement was that we would each pay 1/3 of the total costs to live there and that when one decided to move out the other 2 would do what they had to to either take over the increased cost or sell the house so that the one who left could move on with their life. Remember this was before the housing crash... I met my fiancée in March 2007 and we bought, renovated, and moved into our home in December 2007.
We are getting married in Spring 2009 but for the past year I have still paid rent at my mom's place because I have always been the dependable son and don't want to disappoint my family or put an additional hardship on them. The problem is that they don't seem to be making any effort to alleviate my "perceived" responsibilities there. My job is soon going to be slowing down and it will cause a great hardship for me to continue paying rent there. What should I do? Cut ties with the risk of my family hating me? or continue to pay rent and struggle until further notice. I have already paid rent while I am not living there for 13 months and my fiancee dosent like it one bit because 1 week out of every month is working to pay that rent while we cant save much money. Meanwhile my mom and brother have been on 4 vacations this year alone and I have to turn them all down.
Should I be selfish or selfless?
We are getting married in Spring 2009 but for the past year I have still paid rent at my mom's place because I have always been the dependable son and don't want to disappoint my family or put an additional hardship on them. The problem is that they don't seem to be making any effort to alleviate my "perceived" responsibilities there. My job is soon going to be slowing down and it will cause a great hardship for me to continue paying rent there. What should I do? Cut ties with the risk of my family hating me? or continue to pay rent and struggle until further notice. I have already paid rent while I am not living there for 13 months and my fiancee dosent like it one bit because 1 week out of every month is working to pay that rent while we cant save much money. Meanwhile my mom and brother have been on 4 vacations this year alone and I have to turn them all down.
Should I be selfish or selfless?
Added by Edwin (male)
Side 2 says...
Yes, I bought the house on the assumption that as long as we all lived there we would contribute equally to the expenses. He decided to move out and pursue his own life so that is his decision and he must deal with the consequences. It would be hard for me and his brother to carry the costs on our own and we need the rent $1000/month.
I love him and he is my favorite son. But since he moved out he has become more distant and our relationship has changed. It is not that I don't want to release his responsibility here. I just cant afford it.
It is true that I went on several vacations in the past year. I wanted him to come along on the 2 I took several family members to but he said he had to work. But am I not entitled to spend the money I make on myself if I so deem fit? I can afford my 1/3 rent and still do these things and that should not be a bad thing.
I like his fiancee a lot but she is not as family oriented as we all are. She wants to be more independent and though I understand that I dont like it.
If the market did not crash I would have sold the house but as it stands now I owe $40K more than it is worth and cannot sell it. I would hope that Edwin would help with the expenses here until we can sell it. But how many years that will be? I dont know.
I love him and he is my favorite son. But since he moved out he has become more distant and our relationship has changed. It is not that I don't want to release his responsibility here. I just cant afford it.
It is true that I went on several vacations in the past year. I wanted him to come along on the 2 I took several family members to but he said he had to work. But am I not entitled to spend the money I make on myself if I so deem fit? I can afford my 1/3 rent and still do these things and that should not be a bad thing.
I like his fiancee a lot but she is not as family oriented as we all are. She wants to be more independent and though I understand that I dont like it.
If the market did not crash I would have sold the house but as it stands now I owe $40K more than it is worth and cannot sell it. I would hope that Edwin would help with the expenses here until we can sell it. But how many years that will be? I dont know.
Added by Kimberly (female)
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