Feeling Alone

Side 1 says... My husband and I live in a small town out west, across the country from all of my family and friends. During the summer months we travel to another city for his job and live there for 5 months while he works. In the past I don't usually go with him for the whole time but now that we have a child we planned on me going the whole time so we could still be a family.

First, I have been telling him for months ahead of time that I feel we need to take a uhaul out there to fit in everything we will need for 5 months of living (especially with stuff for a baby). He has continually ignored my opinion and is convinced we can take it all in the cars. We were suppose to drive out together two weeks ago but we had a lot going on and were not packed yet and still had unfinished business to take care of here with the house, taxes, doctor appointments, etc. So I asked him to wait a couple more days but he said he couldn't so he left with out me and left me here to finish everything alone.

So for the past two weeks I have been trying to get things done here (and there was A LOT left unfinished), take care of a baby alone, driving back and forth to his parents house 20 minutes away to sleep at night because I'm not comfortable home alone in our town, dragging a baby around town to get things done that he should have been keeping up with long ago. And trying to figure out how to pack an entire household into the trunk of a car.

My sister in law had agreed to drive out there with me this weekend when she had a few days off work. I was already stressing getting everything done on my own and taking such a long drive with a baby and just my sister in law.

Then about a week ago I found out there was a lot going on with my family across the country who I am very close to. My brother was arrested, got alcohol poisoning and was causing many problems, while at the same time my mother attempted suicide. Between the worry and stress over them and not being there to help, a teething baby who is up all night screaming, and so much to do I am running on zero sleep and just can't keep up.

I have told my husband that I cannot be ready to drive out there with my sister in law this weekend and that I desperately need his emotional and physical support to get through this and get all this done.

I believe he should take two days off of work (which he can very well do and will not loose his job or anything) to come back and help get his family out there. He refuses to. He does not understand why I'm having such a hard time or what the big deal is and has made me feel (as usual) like work is more important than his family. He needs to understand that while I greatly appreciate how hard he works and how well he provides for us and I can't wait to get out there to support him in his job; earning a living is not a husband and father's sole responsibility. There are emotional and family responsibilities as well.